Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian MenJapanese Men
I receive thousands of emails from my fans seeking interracial dating advice for Asian men as well as the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (often a white girl, but not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
Since your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so frequently ad naseum. I’m finally planning to put it to bed for that first and last time despite my misgivings.
I used to be recently reminded of this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the end) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction when I sat next to a very pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.
In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard before and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from a woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes individuals and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail in my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
So now is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do in order to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the reality is other women from Dark to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a lady is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
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Maybe you’ve seen this kind - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or put on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) while they really only know how to order pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, being a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act very serious and say something similar to, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I believe that?”
And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can manage) “You just said ‘I enjoy it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I love your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.
Girls who may have had the pleasure with this situation tell me it’s unique the other they’ve never forgotten. Make sure to utilize it if you know your native language!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
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Her best friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even when they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've got some sort of Asian acceptance to create her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die inside the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was unveiled in the idea of dating Asian men by way of a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Martial Arts: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently quite a famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions concerning the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the individuals his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Some of the most beautiful Asian men groupies follow the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it is sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she actually is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this type of comes up, use visual imagery to paint a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of the steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own Korean BBQ, and also the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating as well as arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food similar to this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is via his stomach, right? It relates to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take on this as generalizing, she’s just attempting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint an image about going on a vacation together. Begin with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking together sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around inside the sand kissing. Use her desire to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express fascination with anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and stuff like that). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s up to her. If she’s referring to how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s wanting to relate to you. The latter kind of woman wants to impress you with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in which you say something towards the effect of “That is really amazing how much you recognize!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and more attractive, as this is a comparatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. As well as Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I recently don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she just simply will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (quite simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm as much as hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is certainly going well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible things such as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (if you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we had been little boys, we do melt under the praise of the beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically create a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they might be?” It plays into her fantasy. Equally as we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to keep emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: Here is the biggest, most obvious indicator a girl can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever explained she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically connect with her 99.9999% of that time period. So a white girl that way will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She's going to make this point as well as further - she's going to try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not all of you look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a man of my ethnicity to create her seem more appealing and receptive in my experience. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.
With, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine some of those traits or even all of them together and, gentlemen, you simply might find yourself talking to one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the girl better than you found her!
So just why WAIT UNTIL NOW TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously i was always not wanting to answer this question. Yes, it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
So why haven’t I answered it so far? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your LESS LIKELY TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. The truth is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve for ages been hesitant to answer because, on the holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the response to that question. I believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is called “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and for that reason me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. Put simply, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.
And in today’s modern world with modern women, the very last thing dating is, is risk-free.
Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who'd then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male that is only confident if it is instead the woman who takes the initial risk. Instead of the most convenient way around which is the man’s role to become dominant, forward, and a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to appear, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first then making her drawn to you which she then sends you signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh your way into her heart (and then her pants)!
As you have seen, I am a very average looking man. I'm a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. All women I’ve dated is physically (if not socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured by the media around the world.
Instead, use these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming drawn to you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You need to take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs that you should STAY when you’re already in a conversation with her rather than viewing them as indicators for you to initially approach her.
Over time, what I’ve discovered with women that specifically that they like Asian men are in a choice of it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll enjoy being there but be cautious because you’ll get tied down quickly with a girl that chose you, not a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference.
And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for your reasons that you might think.
If you haven’t had the chance to become familiar with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - after all, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the overall game early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you've yet to meet.